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appropriately-inappropriate:

ladybrun:

FINALLY: Israel accused of its warcrimes by members of parliament in the UK

"We should not equate the occupied with the occupier, we should not equate a refugee population of 1.7mil imprisoned in a tiny strip of land, with prison guards, we should not equate terrorists firing rockets with a supposedly "civilized" state systematically killing women, children, disabled and elderly people…If UK and other Western governments fail to discriminate between the actions of Hamas and israel, hundreds of Palestinian civilians will continue to die and the annexation of Palestine by israel will continue.”

Oh, shit.

via · org 3:57 pm · 30 Jul    4195
#gaza
  • sext: are you for or against the Oxford comma?
via · org 3:55 pm · 30 Jul    5079

guiltyhipster:

Girls get mocked for liking high heels and lipstick. Girls get mocked for liking sports. Girls get mocked for liking tea and books. Girls get mocked for liking comics books and video games. Girls get mocked for liking math and science. Girls get mocked for liking boys. Girls get mocked for liking girls. Girls get mocked for liking both. What the fuck are we supposed to like? Water? Air? Come on, tell me. I’m dying to know. 

via · org 3:54 pm · 30 Jul    250896
#sexism

ludicrouscupcake:

poppy-the-knight:

sourcedumal:

I Love My Boo campaign features real young men of color loving each other passionately. Rather than sexualizing gay relationships, this campaign models caring, and highlights the importance of us taking care of each other. Featured throughout New York City, I Love My Boo directly challenges homophobia and encourages all who come across it to critically rethink our notion of love.

GMHC is the world’s first and leading provider of HIV/AIDS prevention, care and advocacy. Building on decades of dedication and expertise, we understand the reality of HIV/AIDS and empower a healthy life for all. GMHC fights to end the AIDS epidemic and uplift the lives of all affected.

this is fucking adorable

SPREAD THESE IMAGES LIKE WILDFIRE PRECISELY BECAUSE THEY FUCK UP THE MISGUIDED STEREOTYPES WE ALL ARE USED TO SEEING.

extremeirrelevancy:

If you remove biological femaleness from the definition of “woman” you’re left with stereotypes related to femininity.

If you then try to remove the stereotypes, you’re left with a word that defines absolutely nothing, and is useful to no one.

And making a word that is important to the discussion of systematic oppression into meaningless window dressing is fucking bullshit.

via · org 3:47 pm · 30 Jul    1672

hoelita:

moonfuls:

hoelita:

do white people know how to write love poems without mentioning cigarettes

Do people know how to write text posts without mentioning white people?

how are you talking without lips?

(Source: babefield)

via · org 3:46 pm · 30 Jul    39957

quickbewitty:

quickbewitty:

Why do cows have hooves instead of feet?

Because they lactose

via 3:45 pm · 30 Jul    58
#pun

JUST A PSA:

loveatitsfinest:

American Airlines’ number (1-800-433-7300) is only one number away from a SEX HOTLINE (1-800-633-7300) IM NOT FUCKING KIDDING MY FLIGHT GOT CANCELED SO I HAD TO CALL AMERICAN AIRLINES AND THE LADY WROTE IT SO THE 4 LOOKED LIKE A 6 SO I CALLED IT AND THIS LADY JUST GOES ”MMMMM IVE BEEN WAITING FOR YOU IM SO HORNY” IM LIKE IM SHIT THIS ISN’T AMERICAN AIRLINES FUCK

Whenever you’re going through a bad day just remember, your track record for getting through bad days, so far, is 100%; and that’s pretty damn good.
My amazing friend (via pain-is-temporary-keep-fighting)
via · org 10:00 am · 30 Jul    64648
#quote

http://queenthingy.tumblr.com/post/93306705220/appropriately-inappropriate

appropriately-inappropriate:

taylorswiftmademefearless:

stydiaofficial:

if you don’t think some of the hate Taylor Swift receives is unnecessary and sexist let me just remind you that she once wore a black turtle neck, jeans and boots and this was a result

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scandalous…

via · org 9:57 am · 30 Jul    15931

riotinglesbian:

Is it true that in other countries, the primary concern for a student is to well, be a student? Are you all pressured to get full time jobs to pay for college tuition or work part time during school? Or is America just the most piss poor place.

Canada’s basically the same. Not AS bad, but still not so great.

via 7:50 am · 30 Jul    6
#personal
borg-collective:

free-radical-feminism:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print. 
Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Putting aside that I am against BDSM, this is very important. People really can die and this book definitely portrays doms as being able to do whatever they want without worrying about the sub (basically the sub becoming another object to play with). ASIDE from this already being a problem, the types of men this media popularity will attract to BDSM, and the vulnerable women who believe this to be sexy is on a collision course with some very serious trauma and abuse.
For people who have read it and thought it was sexy (or haven’t tried BDSM and think it could be): It’s always sexy in your mind. In your mind it is consensual, it’s with the right person in the right place and of course nothing will go wrong because you set the pace and the story. It won’t hurt and when you say “no” you’ll mean it playfully. Once it’s real it’s very different. It’s not the right man, he doesn’t listen, it hurts- A LOT, and you really mean no and he ignores it and you start to feel a paralyzing fear of what is going to happen to you and you will be powerless to escape because you will be physically tied/chained/caged (sometimes it’s not even physical but you have already been conditioned to believe you are worthless and your bodily autonomy is not worth fighting for). In your mind you can always stop, things always go the right way, but in real life the other person (male/dom) really can do what he wants and he will because you are his play thing, his doll, not a human.

BDSM is dangerous. Don’t let them tell you otherwise.

borg-collective:

free-radical-feminism:

ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print. 

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

Putting aside that I am against BDSM, this is very important. People really can die and this book definitely portrays doms as being able to do whatever they want without worrying about the sub (basically the sub becoming another object to play with). ASIDE from this already being a problem, the types of men this media popularity will attract to BDSM, and the vulnerable women who believe this to be sexy is on a collision course with some very serious trauma and abuse.

For people who have read it and thought it was sexy (or haven’t tried BDSM and think it could be): It’s always sexy in your mind. In your mind it is consensual, it’s with the right person in the right place and of course nothing will go wrong because you set the pace and the story. It won’t hurt and when you say “no” you’ll mean it playfully. Once it’s real it’s very different. It’s not the right man, he doesn’t listen, it hurts- A LOT, and you really mean no and he ignores it and you start to feel a paralyzing fear of what is going to happen to you and you will be powerless to escape because you will be physically tied/chained/caged (sometimes it’s not even physical but you have already been conditioned to believe you are worthless and your bodily autonomy is not worth fighting for). In your mind you can always stop, things always go the right way, but in real life the other person (male/dom) really can do what he wants and he will because you are his play thing, his doll, not a human.

BDSM is dangerous. Don’t let them tell you otherwise.

via · org 7:44 am · 30 Jul    163842
#bdsm  #sex  #rape  #fifty shades
Anonymous asked: omg if baby oil dissolves condoms what the fuck does it do to babies???

the-kellin-under-the-vic:

This may be shocking, but babies and condoms are made of different material

via · org 6:47 am · 30 Jul    37528
#LMFAOOO

draumstafir:

rogerrrs:

i wanna go for walks in the middle of the night but i also dont want to die ya feel

just girly things

via · org 4:52 am · 30 Jul    2361

http://catfem.tumblr.com/post/93277956014/lollipopmarxism-i-detest-the-shallow-notion-of

lollipopmarxism:

i detest the shallow notion of ‘choice feminism’

it is a meaningless capitalist invention that has successfully depoliticised great swathes of the population.

suddenly whatever a woman does is inherently feminist because shes doing something, oh look that woman…

via 12:35 am · 30 Jul    592
#radfem